Whether your child is one or fifty-one you need to speak blessings over that child. The scripture tells us that the power of life and death is our tongue, so we must be careful what we say.
Even when we are angry, we must think before we speak, lest we speak things into existence that we did not really mean.
You cannot speak negatively about your child and expect that they will be blessed. If that child is to be productive and successful you must declare words of life over him/her.
Let your words be a blessing rather than a curse.
The child may have done some act that may have displeased you but that does not justify being negative and unforgiving toward that child. You are the child's earthly parent you represent God in that child's life so you should not be so upset with the child's actions that you cannot forgive. How many times have you trespassed against your heavenly father? No matter how many times you trespass, he continues to forgive you and bless you.
As a parent I want you to reflect on the "Our Father Prayer", specifically the verse that says, "And forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us". This is such a powerful asking and one that as Christians we must adhere to if we are serious about having a healthy relationship with God and man, especially our children, as well as preserving our health.
Regardless of the age of your child, if that child is to continue to feel good about self and succeed, positive seeds must be planted and nurtured to help him/her develop a positive mind-set and maintain a healthy self-esteem.
Affirm your child; help your child to understand that he/she is a child of God and that they were created for great things. Let them know that God created them to excel, he has given them ability, insight, talent, wisdom, and his supernatural power to do so.
To sow these positive seeds however you must believe in that child and you need to communicate that to the child in both words and action.
As parents we can influence the direction of our children's lives by the words we say to them, as well as how we treat them. We have the ability to help mold and shape the future of our children, with our words and actions, as children learn by what they see as well as by what they hear.
This does not mean however, that we will agree with all that they do, wrong or right. It will be necessary to confront and correct them, it will be necessary to discipline them. What is important though is that our words to them and about them should be positive. You must be able to separate the undesirable action from the child. "Hate the sin; love the sinner".
Negative words will destroy the child quicker than you can imagine. If you want your child to be productive and successful you need to begin declaring words of life over them, rather that prediction of doom and gloom.
The scripture reminds us that with our words we can bless people or we can curse them. We will remember the story in the Old Testament with Jacob and Esau, the two sons of Isaac, and how Isaac was tricked into conferring the blessing destined for Esau, the first born, on Jacob. In those days the family recognised that
"The blessing" carried spiritual authority, and had the ability to bring success, prosperity, and health to the one who received the blessing.
In the same way today you need to speak "the blessing" over your children. You need to speak loving words of approval and acceptance, words that encourage, inspire, and motivate your children to reach for new heights.
When you do that you are blessing them with your words. This blessing is not only for now it should be for all the days of their lives and that they should pass this blessing on to their own children.
Parents, if you constantly speak negative words over your children, you are cursing their future.
Help your children succeed by blessing them with your words.
Pray with them, and for them, give them all your love, and support, and they will be motivated, encouraged, and inspired to reach new heights.